Have you ever seriously considered talking to friends and relatives about your career plans? Believe it or not, that can be one of the first big career moves you make. Many professionals find that their earliest opportunities and insights come from people they already know — and this can be an easy, low-pressure way to start networking.
If you’re job searching or exploring a transition, reaching out to your personal network is a great place to start. It can feel a little uncomfortable at first, but if you don’t yet have a strong professional network, beginning with your immediate circle makes perfect sense. It’s also a chance for them to see you in a new light — not just as the family member they know, but as someone serious about their future goals.
You might feel a bit awkward approaching someone like your uncle Bob in a professional way, but he could be one of the best people to give you an inside look at your chosen field — and he’ll likely be flattered that you asked for his advice.
The Holidays: The Perfect Time to Network
The holidays are an ideal time to reconnect and strengthen relationships. Here are four tips to make the most of those conversations:
1. Don’t be afraid to ask.
There’s no need to be shy about seeking information or guidance. If the person you’re talking with enjoys what they do, they’ll likely be happy to share advice and recommendations.
2. Prepare questions in advance.
Be curious and show genuine interest in the career paths your friends and family have followed. If you don’t understand something, that’s okay — the best way to learn is by listening, thinking, and asking thoughtful questions. People appreciate curiosity and are often eager to share their knowledge.
3. Be clear about what you’re looking for.
Let people know what kind of information or opportunities you’re seeking, and be specific so they know how to help. Maybe you’re hoping to learn about a particular role, industry trends, or even land an informational interview. It can be challenging for family or friends to see you in a professional light, so be up-front about your goals and how they might assist.
4. Leave no stone unturned.
Even if it feels like a stretch to reach out to certain people, try anyway — you never know who they might know or connect you with. If they can’t help directly, they’ll tell you, and you can move on. The broader your network, the more opportunities you’ll uncover.
Do Your Homework Before the Holidays
Before your next family gathering, do a little prep work. Ask your parents what their siblings, aunts, and uncles do for a living. Ask your friends about their relatives’ careers too. When you arrive at the event, come ready to ask questions and learn from those who’ve “been there and done that” in your field. You might walk away with helpful advice — or even a new connection.
Follow Up Afterward
After your conversations, send a quick thank-you note or message. Let them know how their advice helped and stay in touch. Networking isn’t a one-time chat — it’s about building relationships that can support you over time.
So before your next holiday party, think of it not just as a social event, but as a chance to take the next step in your career. You never know where one meaningful conversation might lead.
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